Sunday, December 17, 2023
If you are someone who never gets angry or already has control over your anger then this article might just not be for you. This is by and for someone suffering from their habit of being angry and willing to control it for good.
So if you ask me, Can I completely handle my anger in every scenario? Then my answer will be “no”. I am someone who used to be angry in very small matters. As life continues I began to realize my habit of being angry is not good for me and it is even worse for my loved ones.
Here are a few points that I have learned and applied over the years whenever I feel like I am going to be angry.
Surround Yourself with Good People
I think we all agree that changes do not happen in an instant, there is a lot of preparation you have to make beforehand to see the result when it matters. So being with good people helps you unconsciously adapt and act like them. What I mean by good people is, people who are positive about their life, people who respect you, and people who don't get angry easily, etc. They say "You become the average of the five people you hang out with. - Drew Houston”
Know the Difference Between React and Respond
Just by knowing what it means to react and respond, technically I was able to suppress bad feelings in a lot of situations. React means when you immediately take action after something bad or unpleasant happens. Respond means you take your time to understand the situation before taking action if something bad or unpleasant happens. And the golden rule is Don't React Always Respond.
The Ultimate Goal or Desire of Humans
We do lots of things in life, but to achieve what? For most of us, it is to be happy. If there was a button to make you happy for your whole life, you would surely press it, right? If being angry does not make you happy and always leads to some kind of loss and regret then you shouldn't be angry and react badly.
Control of Your Emotion
See, if you get angry easily and I get to know what makes you angry then I can say those things on your important days like your exam, your interview, your marriage, etc which will ruin everything for you. It is almost like giving someone control over your emotions and they can decide when they want you to be happy or angry. Remember, if others actions or words can control your emotions then you are just a slave to that person.
You Will Lose Respect
One thing that I have learned not from my life but from observing others is that when someone you respect gets angry and reacts badly in front of you, then that person will lose your respect. This was one of the triggered points for me, I don't want to be on the other side of this example.
Get Your Things Done (Super Important)
When you work for your dream and you are achieving something in your life. Mean words less hurt you, and unfavorable situations less irritate you. If you are happy and satisfied with yourself then it is very rare that some outside force can control your emotions.
Life is Too Short to Get Angry
I will give you an example. Suppose someone just makes you angry. If you knew that you or that person was going to die tomorrow, would you still act harshly? Life is too short to get angry, Live for Peace and Happiness.
Having said that, I am neither an expert nor someone who has completely gained control over my emotions. I would still love to hear from you guys if you have any ideas or suggestions about handling your anger which I have not mentioned above. Feel free to contact me on my email or any social media handles.
This was my learning over some years, I will keep updating you guys in the future version of this article as I keep learning over the period.
